The love in cooking

I love to cook. But I don't love to cook for myself.

Which got me thinking....

Cooking is an act of love for me.

My friend (who is a therapist, but not mine!) told me about 'love languages'. Apparently it's pretty common that when a couple is going through a tough time they are not tuned into one another's love language.

There are 5 love languages :

Words of affirmation

"I love you!"


Quality time



Receiving gifts



Acts of service



Physical touch



Being in tune with a partner's (or family member's, or close friend's) love language can help you appreciate when they are doing something out of love for you, EVEN THOUGH IT IS NOT WHAT YOU YOURSELF MIGHT DO AS AN EXPRESSION OF LOVE.

I know that when I cook for Matt he sees it as a love language and it makes him feel good that I want to do it for him. Even Joshua, who sometimes must hate the healthy stuff I make him eat, has voiced the fact that he likes that I like cooking for him. He too sees it as my way of expressing love.

However, I do not expect Josh and/or Matt to cook for ME as a sign of love. They have their own way of 'talking'; Matt is great at making me feel so beautiful and special by the things he says to me and by verbally acknowledging things I do. He also lets me know I'm not crazy, even when I think I am!

Joshua, well he's a 12 year old boy, but every now and again he draws a picture for me; the last one was a pink sonic the hedgehog character.

I don't really know where I'm going with this blog, maybe I just want to nudge people to think about what language THEY are putting out and what are other people 'saying' to you that you may not be appreciating?

We rarely use plain and simple English to show someone we care, but we often give other signs. So look for it in others actions and let them know that you see it.

If I cook for you, well it's a sign of love..... unless I'm trying to poison you, but I haven't done that in a while ;)